This Holiday, Serve Up Plenty Of Self Care. Yum.
The holidays have a way of bringing out the best in us… and the most triggered parts of us.
It’s a season filled with joy, light, gratitude, new connections — and sometimes old patterns, family roles we thought we’d outgrown, and emotions we didn’t plan on revisiting.
If you’ve ever felt like you’re 40 years old on the outside and suddenly 12 years old again on the inside when certain family members walk into the room…you’re not alone.
You don’t have to have it all figured out to be more present, relaxed and compassionate this year.
A little preparation can make a big impact...
Why the Holidays Can Feel Intense (Even When Things Are “Fine”)
Science tells us that 90% of our thoughts and actions come from the subconscious mind — the deeply patterned part of our brain that formed long before we were adults.
The holidays tend to light up that old wiring.
Familiar environments activate familiar neural pathways.
Old triggers wake up.
Family roles return like muscle memory.
But here’s the empowering part:
Your brain can change.
New pathways can form.
New responses can become your default.
One conscious reminder — seen again and again — becomes a new pattern.
Your Holiday Toolkit (Small But Powerful)
Here’s a simple practice for the season:
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Choose your intention…at a time you feel relaxed and grounded. Don’t wait till the last minute!
What do you have a hankering for this holiday? Peace? Patience? Presence? Courage? Boundaries? -
Wear Your intention — on your wrist, where you’ll naturally see it. Or hidden, where you’re the only one who knows it’s there. Each glance (or thought of it) can be a moment of recalibration.
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Celebrate the small wins.
The breath you took instead of reacting…
the boundary you held…
the kindness you extended…
the old story you didn’t replay…
Those are victories.
A Different Kind of Holiday Season
Imagine walking into your family gatherings anchored in your intention — not pulled by the past, but supported by the present.
Imagine having a little nudge on your wrist whispering:
You choose how you show up now.
You’re free to respond, not react.
You’re safe to be your real self.
That’s the gift of self love.
Not just for the holidays — but always.